Go through these in order and stop at the first one that applies. If you are reading this for someone else, answer for them.
Seek emergency help if there are thoughts of suicide with intent or a plan, an inability to stay safe, a serious overdose, or an immediate risk of harm.
Contact local emergency services or a crisis service and remain with a trusted person if possible.
In the United States and Canada, call or text 988 for crisis support.
Contact a clinician promptly if depression or anxiety is worsening, substance use is increasing, treatment side effects are concerning, or avoidance is making it difficult to meet basic needs.
Routine follow-up allows the person and clinician to review goals, symptoms, functioning, treatment barriers, and any medication effects.
Improvement may be gradual and uneven.
A difficult social experience or missed appointment does not mean that treatment has failed.
It can help to track specific changes, such as attending appointments, responding to messages, completing a planned social step, or recovering more quickly after criticism.
These measures may show progress even when anxiety is still present.
An earlier appointment may also be appropriate if the person is withdrawing from nearly all contact or can no longer manage work, school, or essential responsibilities.
Every sign above is quoted from the sofidex article on Avoidant personality disorder. If you are not sure, err upward — it is always reasonable to be checked.