Go through these in order and stop at the first one that applies. If you are reading this for someone else, answer for them.
1
Is any of this happening now?
Call 911
Call local emergency services or go to an emergency department if there is an immediate risk of suicide, serious injury, or violence.
If an abusive person monitors your phone or internet use, seek help through a safe device or a trusted person when possible.
Other emergency signs, for anyone
Someone who is struggling to breathe, gasping, choking, or cannot get words out
Someone who has chest pain, tightness or pressure lasting more than a few minutes
Someone who has sudden weakness or drooping on one side of the face or body, slurred speech, or sudden confusion
Someone who is unconscious, or cannot be woken
Someone who is bleeding heavily and it will not stop with firm pressure
Someone who has had a seizure that will not stop, or does not wake up afterwards
Someone who has lips or skin that look pale, blue, grey or blotchy
Someone who you believe has taken an overdose or swallowed something poisonous
2
Is any of this happening?
Be seen today
Seek urgent help the same day if you:
Have thoughts of self-harm or suicide
Feel unable to keep yourself safe
Are experiencing escalating abuse, threats, or coercive control
Are unable to meet basic needs because of severe distress
Develop a sudden major change in mood, behaviour, or functioning
3
Does any of this apply?
Book an appointment
Arrange a routine appointment with a mental health professional or primary care clinician if dependence, fear of separation, or difficulty making decisions is causing ongoing distress.
Help is also appropriate if these patterns keep you in harmful relationships or interfere with work, education, or daily life.
Every sign above is quoted from the sofidex article on Dependent personality disorder. If you are not sure, err upward — it is always reasonable to be checked.